Time Rich

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Being Time rich is about living the life you desire.   It’s not necessarily about the amount you have in the bank.

Our 30 second video stories are a few people I know who have taken time and life into their own hands – a life they own and that they control.  No longer the drones but out smelling the roses of life!

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These stories can be an inspiration, of a few people who are Time Rich.

In the Paradise Project and our talks we hear about these and other people’s journey and how they live their life – some also come to share their inspiration.  Their motivation becomes yours.   Create your vision.

 

 

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Staggering Stats

Our working life has to change.

Grads from top schools are funneled into high income 80 hour per week jobs and 15 to 30 years of soul crushing work has been accepted as the default path.

In the UK we are the least productive workforce in Europe 27 percent less productive than our German counterparts. Even behind Spain renowned for their siestas!

We’re spending around 28 per cent of our working day on eMails, 31 hours a month in unproductive meetings (and 73 percent of us do other work during those meetings!)

Our working days are longer than they should be. The working day having increased from seven and a half hours to nine and a half. Employees are effectively cancelling out their holidays by using phones and iPads to work from home.

Many companies seem still so ingrained to having bums on seats irrespective of productivity – and are still not taking into account our individual needs.

YouGov reported in 2015 that 37 percent of British workers think their jobs are meaningless and the Evening Standard says that a staggering 80 per cent of Londoners hate their jobs. With Bloomberg recently revealing that once you are over thirty-five your more likely to hate your job.

Read Happiness at Work for some light!


Fiona Austin is a consultant for creating a better life at work, whether you work for yourself or for someone else.  ContactWhen you live in paradise logo

Happiness at Work – pt 1

In this first of two articles I’m going to focus on those employed and those that employ them.   I’m asking the question  …

Can you be happy at work?

Yes – is the short answer.  How – is the key. And the obstacle – change!

Happiness is not a destination like going to Ibiza nor is it a blanky that you can wrap around yourself. It’s a reaction, it’s cumulative and it’s personal. Good news is that it is possible with just a little mindset change.  This is food for thought which is essentially like chocolate cake for the brain!  So it’s change we want so will gobble it up!

Boredom
This is the killer of productive engagement in the workplace. This is something suffered on all levels. We like to experience small wins. Interestingly our biggest inspiration is ruled by our intrinsic motivations, goals, meaning .. not extrinsic such as financial. Think about it. If you earn £50k and are splashing around in a beach buggy for a living. You’re offered £80k to manage the parking lot – well it’s not going to bring you much happiness. Money after a certain point is not an incentive and should not equal misery. But old school keeps using old ways.

Meaning
Meaning is where you realise how you’re job fits into the bigger picture. How you are important, not a faceless cog, but you’re valued.  The qualification on the understanding of that value that often is missed, it must be your feeling of value, that you feel like you’ve contributed. You’re not just packing tomatoes, you’re making pasta sauce or making kids smile. You’re part of the bigger picture. The ‘shut up and do as you’re told ‘was a bad adoption. Why did we not stick with the Bournville philosophy (the chocolate village). Here was a place where workers were treated well, commuting gone because they were given homes, schools, pensions, with their health and welfare looked after – genuinely. Now 200 years on it’s hothousing and high rents. Quality of life is low in big business. It now comes complete with a facade of ‘we’ve got a cool cafe so you don’t have to leave and we have beanbags – it’s rubbish. Identity stripped and you can’t even leave for lunch! Come back chocolate town!

Boredom coupled with meaning are two big areas that can be harnessed, cost little and return a lot.

Employees
For the employees who feel powerless, there’s a lot of things we can do. Happiness is a series of moments. It’s about resilience and perspective. We’ve got to reframe. Simply consider your coffee?  Dispense with it and go outside and have some water.  Have meetings on a bench in the park. You are adults it’s not like you need a hall pass. Shake it up.  Don’t bang out eMails to people who work next to you, talk to them. eMails are just lazy to do lists passed on. End them by replying in person or on the phone. Have an eMail time don’t do them immediately like they’re a whip master.  Schedule and do them all at once.  Turn things on their head. It’s interesting for your brain to identify the boring bits of your day and then rise to the challenge of how to make them more interesting. Make that a topic at lunch when you’re out of the building.

Start a grateful challenge. Pin it up in the photocopy room. When we’re grateful for stuff, we become more aware of the good, gets us off the negative track. But if it’s a public one, it spreads the good feeling. Or do one privately. Be thankful for the blue skies, the autumn leaves – get specific and enjoy the gratitude.

Doing these small things create chage by small percents in the right direction. They add up.

 

Employers
The top down needs to find out what bugs their employees and what good stuff do they want.  Be open to flexi time – it’s such a big one and groundless in heavy restriction. The cost of travel is another massive bug bare. Incentivise with travel bonus or have more flexi time to avail of off peak. It’s important for management to stop trying to control and look at productivity as opposed to behavior. Again it’s not school. Lots of grownups in the house!

Socials these can be tricky, when people don’t like work they want to get away so social’s can be forced.  It was found that employees who had a best friend where they work are seven times more likely to be fully engaged in their jobs. But old greys often discourage this, thinking friends will just chat all the time – short sighted – as more likely than not they will – about work when they’re off the clock!

Another way we can encourage happiness, is to invest in learning. Couple this with gratitude and you’ve a super charged sandwich. Executives are very often overlooked with genuine gratitude, yes nice bonuses but nothing beats gratitude. An investment in their leanrng coaching, training mentoring. Loyalty is increases, loss reduces productivity up. Happiness is in balance.

One important aspect that has to be brought into the workplace more is emotional intelligence. Without this in leadership you’re just in charge of a cold ship that will sink under you.  Meaningful relationships based in humility, compassion, empathy and kindness are increasingly part of successful brands. Couple this with ‘Conscious Capitalism’ workers who see their company involved in more conscious or sustainable investments, it will help to arrest conflicting feelings. Millennials want a better world and if their company is creating this, that’s a feel good and another increment to happiness.

Last Words on Happiness
In case you’re still not convinced. According to a study by author Shawn Achor “When the brain is positive, productivity rises by 31 per cent. Revenues can triple, likelihood of promotion rises 40 per cent and sales by 37 per cent!” But again. Grown ups in the house. We know when it’s authentic. Colored walls and green tea is not the answer in isolation.

Raj Sisoda, professor of global business observes that “people have been shut down and are operating at a minimal level, because they are not given conditions where positive energy, the commitment, creativity and passion can be liberated.

We need a big change. To stop thinking of employees, but of whole people. Work life balance isn’t a reality, but embracing the whole person is. If you wanted someone to stay with you for 20 years.  How could you ask for a seperation of the growth that would have happened to that individual. The work place has to get past ‘well it’s always worked’ so it can still work.

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When you live in paradise logoFiona Austin is a consultant to companies on how their employees can be happier so productivity increases.
* Just as trying to sort out your own problems is like trying to read from a mirror – outside perspective really helps. Outside looking in. Happiness shining back. Contact

Stories are the first step to Paradise

Here you’ll find an few video collection of Stories.

Most are from friends who have dared to live their dream.   They have kindly shared their stories to open the door to Possibility Land for you.

Before the 4 minute mile record was broken by Roger Bannister.  Doctors said it was physically impossible for a human to run so fast.  But once it was broken, a door was opened and so many more broke the same record.   Now, it’s a middle distance standard!   The possibility was created!

In a way, a permission given.  When we listen or hear these stories and in turn provoke other’s to tell stories they know …  reality to our dream is given. A possibility.  A situation of …  If they can do it, so can I, raises it’s head.

Depending on the story and identification triggers.  That feeling resonates and the mind starts.  The excuses start to dissolve.   The right story at the right time can facilitate psychological change.  Indeed the ancient traditions of storytelling so rich and rife in all cultures were the earliest form of psychotherapy as well as vehicles for passing on patterns of wisdom.

Stories bypass the shredding effects of over-analysis and conscious reasoning. Stories are inherently hypnotic in that they fixate attention and appeal to the imagination. This makes stories the perfect device for delivering fresh patterns of hope as well as more specific suggestions for change.

Stories are not meant to be consciously picked apart. You don’t have to know exactly how a phone works in order for it to facilitate a communication.   And if a story doesn’t immediately ‘work’ for someone, no harm is done. They have simply heard an entertaining story!

I’m often asked how do other peoples stories of change – change you?

It’s about inspiration.  And this is powerful.  It opens that door of possibility.  Being inspired by others and stepping into their story, even just momentarily so that you can feel that by taking life and making a change, you get to living it your way and what can be right for you.

Step Through

 

Have it all Not happy

…the very rich. They are different from you and me.
F Scott Fitzgerald

Increasingly, as the 1%’s income gap widens ever greater, along with it is the closely followed 2, to 10%ers … we have a culture of people and families that have so much, materially – but are empty, unhappy, lost, dissatisfied – miserable even.  

Cheers!

So why when you have it all, does it not necessarily mean you’re deliriously happy too!   

Let’s chuck the obvious cliché out of the way so we can get on with this – ‘Money doesn’t buy Happiness’.. blah blah .. yes we know.  “But what if I’m rich and I simply want to be happy”.   It’s almost impossible to articulate this without judgment.

In the past this was predominately a male problem, but increasingly women. However it can be inherited to members of your family, so along with a few million in the bank comes a psyche full of disillusionment for the kids.

So what’s going on?

The expectations and pressures around you – the achieved, the successful, the rich – are that you need to have some sort of grin on your face 24/7.   The expectation is you need to be grateful, you can’t complain.  How can you! You’ve got it all.

Or it can be that you’ve spent your whole life working and now that you’ve got ‘there’, you are just not feeling it!  Again how can you complain, after all isn’t this what you worked for?

Trapped in a situation of having it all, like some Cracked Mirror drama, except this is nothing new.  The unhappy rich are all over history, the Bible, the Koran, and folk tales.  Stories about the feckless aristocracy, the sugar barons, the traders, the colonisers, bankers, and the tech trillionaires –  Having it all.  So why do we still keep trying to get more when we know in our history, hell in our DNA that it’s not the answer.with

On the outside, people would be quick to say ‘pity about them, who cares, they’ve got it all’.  How can the poor have compassion for the rich?  Unthinkable on both sides!  Yet we must.  When the captains are not happy the crew suffer.

It’s often so hard for the privileged to say they’re unhappy, to say these things out loud as there are so many struggling to get what the rich have.   But there is a dark side to privilege – it needs some light as we’re caught in the groove like lemmings, aiming for it all and getting everything – and here’s the rub – including something missing in the pit of our stomach.

Fiona Austin is an expert in Paradise Syndrome and runs tailored programmes which specifically deal with finding a life that feels right.    Contact

 

Most people’s Stories

So you’ve checked out a few articles from Facebook or free YouTube videos on change, or following your dreams  – all in the pursuit of getting a different life or simply, to be happy  … but they just end up being the same!  Giving you advice, but not actually the nuts and bolts of how, or they blab on about meditation, like this is easy to do!

Getting to your dream
Annoying! As it’s just not that straightforward!

They’re telling you it’s just a matter of ‘like this or like that‘   .. as if there’s some magic direct route!  No complications!    Life is not that straightforward.  Is it?  Our stories, dreams, journey’s have complications.. and let’s face it, sometimes we’re so lazy, we’d rather stay unhappy than change!

Life is just not straight forward
Life’s way more like this!

So, most of us, never get there, to the nirvana of the ‘happily ever after‘.
But you actually can get there, you can be happy, you can stop being miserable, out of control, empty … all that stuff.

But…” it’s really hard to do it on your own.   Yes!  Change your life!   How big is that?   Huge!”     Actually no … it’s not that huge. Thank goodness!

The first thing is being realistic. When your washing machine breaks, you get ‘the guy’. So why not for something such as your life!   Why make it difficult? Why prolong it? And the twist … Why not make it enjoyable?

We’re not going to say .. this is how it is and send you on your way.  We step with you.  Get rid of your unhappy, your empty and bring you to your paradise.  Even if that’s a night in with the telly!

 

Achieving your dream
Getting you there: Realistically.

 

They say that it takes 10,000 hours to be an expert on something.  Well how about over a million combined hours! (yes, because we can do this in our sleep!)   So come on!   Let’s get you a new story.   Let’s get the happy going on!  It’s what we do!

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Drop us an eMail to get the ball rolling.  It’s just an eMail!

Eco Spirit

Eco Spirit Loading …

I’ve known Ania a few years and on every occasion I meet her, she’s doing something that is purely and simply — kind!  I’ve visited her in different places that she’s lived along the way and despite circumstances she’s had one constant – a dream of creating a little corner of heaven, a paradise.

And she’s achieved it – and it is truly beautiful.  A place for children, families and friends to simply be.  In the heart of the mountains overlooking the sea.   Ania calls’ it Eco Spirit, but really from the outside, it’s Ania’s spirit.   You arrive, you change.    In her own words ..

Everyone needs to go away sometimes, to a place where they can feel safe, welcome and at ease with themselves. We use the phrase  – to recharge batteries, but isn’t better to say something more natural?  What about – a place where you can find your soul and be yourself again.

Tarifa overlooking Morocco
Ania (Anna) has worked in many countries and places when she came upon an amazing piece of Land in the heart of the Natural Park in Spain, overlooking the mountains of Africa.   There she built a home for not just herself but for everyone … she followed a dream and now she’s got even more, she’s sharing it!

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Life Loading …

Sometimes it’s difficult to imagine Shereen being anything other than great fun.  But as a respected Doctor it’s of course only outside the surgery that we see her.  And there in all her glory.  If she’s not skiing down mountains in the Summer (yes New Zealand why not!) or climbing mountains with her children (a feat, as she insists she’s scared of heights!) or galloping past the pyramids on horseback .. you’ll find her relaxing in the Isle of Aaron or attending to all and sundry in London’s busy A&E.
But it doesn’t stop here, artist, DJ .. and great friend to many.   This is a woman who dictates the tick of the clock and it fears her chime!
Life is for the taking and just because someone has what is thought of as a traditional role within society .. does not mean .. you have to step into those ways.  Live it!  It can be done!